Monday, June 29, 2009

I Don't Judge You, So Don't Judge Me!

Do you ever have times when someone judges you for something when they have no clue what you are dealing with? Do you ever have times when you judge others because of what you think you 'see' or what you think you 'know,' only to find out you don't really know anything, and what you 'see' isn't really what you think you see?
How often we judge others without even knowing that person, and how often we judge even when we do!

Due to some major personal experiences over the past several years, I have learned some very important lessons on judging. My motto is "Until I have walked a mile in someone's shoes other than my own, I will never understand what is going on inside that person, and why try on their shoes when I have more than enough of my own to wear?"

I found some neat little quotes on judging that we would all do well to try and live by. I know I'm going to:-)

"We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows their own pain and renunciation. It is one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it is another to think that yours is the only path."
Paulo Coelho
"No accurate thinker will judge another person by that which the other person's enemies say about him."
Napoleon Hill
"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself."
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
"Good judgment is learned by experience. Experience is learned by bad judgment."

Have a great day!

Suggested Reading

Book: Belle: A Retelling of "Beauty and the Beast"
Author: Cameron Dokey

The Book
Belle is convinced she has the wrong name, as she lacks her sisters' awe-inspiring beauty. So she withdraws from society, devoting her time to wood carving. Secretly, Belle longs to find the fabled Heartwood Tree. If carved by the right hands, the Heartwood will reveal the face of one's true love.During a fierce storm, Belle's father stumbles upon the mysterious Heartwood -- and encounters a terrifying and lonely Beast. Now Belle must carve the Heartwood to save her father, and learn to see not with the eyes of her mind, but with the eyes of her heart.
Belle can be found at your local bookstore or on


JoAnn Arnold said...

I agree with you 100%. Thanks for your timely post.

Nancy Campbell Allen said...

I love this post, Jewel. Such good quotes! A friend of mine has a mom who always said that even if you did walk a mile in someone else's shoes, they don't fit because we're different sizes. Kind of like saying you never, ever really know what someone else is experiencing given that we all come from different places.

Brea Marie said...

Well put Jewel! I love your take on walking in someone elses shoes. You are so inspirational.

Shirley Bahlmann said...

Hey, same here! When I was younger, I used to throw judgements like rice at a wedding. I probably still do on occasion, but I don't mean to. And I'm certainly a lot more accepting of people than I used to be.
And if people want to judge me, go ahead! I swim without worrying about my bod. If someone wants to look at me and think, "Ew! She looks so old-fat-varicose veiny!" then it's their problem. I'm going swimming anyway!